My Views On Love

Why do we act like there are certain guidelines to fall in love?

“Oh, we just met,” “you are too young/old for me,” “we are of different caste/religion,” and so on.

For me, love isn’t about time or having a common caste. Love is a feeling that you get when you see them smile. It is also their happiness that makes your day more bright, a week more energetic, month blissful, and year memorable.

And love does not happen for any particular reason—you might fall in love with their voice; enjoy sitting in silence with them all day and be happier than being anywhere else in the world; or you might be enjoying walk/talk-ing with them. The reason might be anything - you might never know that too - but sparkles of love can fire without your knowledge.

However, one’s perceptions can vary over love or relationship topic.

My perceptions of a relationship have changed over time, too. I no longer want someone who just promises to love me and never leave me. But I need someone who understands that life happens and sometimes things don’t work out.

Also, I don’t want someone who sugar-coats things and never get angry with me, as I need someone to tell me about my issues, mistakes and put me in my place.

I should be able to be on myself for (like) five hours without talking to you and not feel lost or incomplete. Because I am complete without you- however, the fact that I get more complete with you should happen. Besides, I also want to be stronger with you, grow together, and help each other grow individually.

It is like when you are with me, we should not get stuck chanting ‘love,’ as we should utilize our strengths to grow together.

Having said that, there is false love around us, too. It is crazy how people lie, keep things away, and still feels nothing while cheating on the other person. These days, a person can literally go from saying ‘I love you’ one day to ending that love very next day- making it the last day you talk to them because of them deciding to hell you over.

Then the process of moving on from the broken love starts- one of the things that make it hard for a person to move on is those promises you made with them. It is pathetic how someone can be so heartless and not give a damn about you, forgetting the time you spent with them, and how you were always there for them.

But it is life, and things happen for good as well as bad, and them not hesitating to quit on you is an experience of life. You just have to let them do what they want and not chase them because they obviously don’t deserve you. Isn’t it?

- Arun Katuwal
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